Fertile Women Prefer Single Men

In a study looking at the ever-interesting (and ever-mysterious) question of why women are attracted to certain men, researchers found that sexual interest shifts with a partnered woman’s menstrual cycle. Research states that when a woman (in a relationship) is fertile, they are most likely to be attracted to single men; thus, when infertile their attraction shifts to coupled men.

Studies shows that coupled women who are thinking of having an affair subconsciously select a man who is more likely to be a willing partner when they are fertile. In short, "Single Men". Courting a coupled man may be of waste as he is less likely to participate in an affair, - and hazardous, as there is a greater chance of getting caught. “Women who felt more attracted to a single man than a coupled one would have been more likely than others to succeed and transmit this preference to their daughters.

So why do women (in a relationship) prefer coupled men during their non-fertile stage? It's because women are instinctively assessing these men as potential replacement partners. “A coupled man obviously has the skills to maintain a long-term relationship, whereas a single man is an unknown. Indeed, women tend to be suspicious of men who are still on the mating market. On the other hand, single women showed no such variation in their preferences; they habitually showed no regard for whether a man was single or taken when expressing sexual preference, at any point in their cycle.

Every Man

Males, by nature, differ in many ways. Those of high genetic quality are less likely to invest time in paternal care than those of lower genetic quality. Thus, females view males with good genes as so desirable to the quality of their offspring, while those of lower-quality make up for their poorer genes by being supportive and aiding in child rearing.

Given these realities, one strategy for a female is to develop a long-term relationship with a lower-quality male while secretly breeding with single high-quality males. The only problem then is getting caught.

The Survey

A survey was conducted out of 200 women, half were single& the other half in relationships, to rate the attractiveness of men in photographs described as single, married, in love, or with a girlfriend. When the same man was labelled as single rather than being in any kind of attachment, fertile women in relationships scored single men 13% higher than attached men; infertile women scored them 8% lower. The effect of fertile women’s preference for single men was most noticeable when those men had particularly ‘manly’ features, such as strong jaws.

The findings add to other studies looking at physiological changes and sexual behaviour associated with reproductive hormone cycles in women. Some work has shown that women are more amorous, for example, when at the fertile stage of their menstrual cycle — similar to the way that animals are ‘in heat’ near the fertile stage of their oestrus cycle.

“These findings provide additional evidence that oestrus in women is alive and well." thus providing an alarming implication that adulterous women, instead of trying to avoid getting pregnant, will subconsciously tend to do the opposite. However, actual romantic behaviour is not the same as instinctive sexual preferences. But both need to be intensively studied to better understand all of this.

Women beware!!!: Instinctive preferences might up the odds of getting pregnant when cheating on a partner.

Impotence - A Sexual Issue

It's sad thing to accept that Most men will have to face up to the challenge of impotence at least once in their lifetime. Research has shown that almost 10% of men face this problem.

What's essential to these situations is to understand that you're not alone and that help is readily available.

So what is impotence?

Impotence or erectile dysfunction is a common problem, affecting men. It is defined as the inability to achieve or sustain an erection that's hard enough or lasts long enough to complete sexual intercourse or another chosen sexual activity. Thus resulting to an inability of making a baby.

Several causes has been identified with regards to impotency.

Physical Causes
- diabetes
- hardening of the arteries, which can lead to high blood pressure, angina or poor circulation
- kidney disorder
- multiple sclerosis or other neurological diseases
- high cholesterol side effects of prescribed drugs
- heavy smoking
- alcoholism and drug abuse pelvic surgery

Psychological Causes
- stress and anxiety from work or home
- problems within your relationship
- worrying about poor sexual satisfaction
- depression
- sexual boredom
- performance anxiety
- unresolved sexual orientation

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But sadly, even if the the doctors can identify the causes effectively better treatment, only about 10% of men faced with this problem seek help. According to Dr. Sally Christopher (Medical Director at the Burnett Sexual Health Centre) "There are so many myths attached to male sexuality and sexual performance, that men perceive their 'masculinity' may be at stake if they admit to experiencing impotence."

The good news is that while there is really no "cure" for male impotence, there are a number of very effective treatments now widely available. Since Viagra, the original impotence pill, burst on to the market in 1998, over 16 million men worldwide have been treated successfully and have been able to resume an active sex life.

Sex ( or Nudity) has been the subject of many masterpieces that has made it's mark through time. Be it in paintings, or photography, it has always captured the attention of many, and has given an impression that truly lasts.

So why does it give such impression?

For one, "Sex" being the subject of such art, gives an avid representation on human nature, and It's purity.It creatively shows the exploration and portrayal of one of the most base human acts and instincts through the creative process.

Magazine's like Met-Art shows the beauty that nudity can bring into photography and art, and maturely it shows great creativity of what the human nature can create.

If you look at it as an art, you would appreciate it's purity and see the creativity within ones natural body.

And just ot make it clear, it's not pornography.

What Is Sexy?

We all know girls like Jessica Alba, and we all know they are sexy. Girls love it, and so do guys. But what does being "sexy" mean?

Both media and fashion has greatly changed the way we define the word sexy. Since both factors are based highly on what is seen, we have come to envision being sexy as something that's solely physical. Someone with a great physique, bigger boobs or butt or both, perfectly formed legs, luscious lips, and seductive looks often times define what sexy means today. Truly, they comprise a part of what ones sexiness is, but not entirely.

Being sexy is really more than just a physical thing, and it can be explained in three (3) parts:

• Sexy is a matter of opinion.
  
  In defining sexy, there are no rules, only preferences. One man finds eyes to be a woman's most attractive physical quality while another considers her hips or waist the most appealing. Some women like tall, dark, and handsome men; some women like smaller, blonder, even more fragile men.
  
  Like features, opinions change from person to person.
  
  
• Sexy is a matter of personality and confidence.
  
  A person can have a body to be envied, but without a matching personality, they are not classy. Classiness is conveyed through simple confidence.
  
  Classically sexy people are confident in their appearance and composure. They may not necessarily be super-model beautiful or drop-dead handsome, but they possess an unshakable assuredness of their worth. They are not arrogant, but they know who they are and are secure in that knowledge.
  
  Classically sexy people do not feel the need to bare all because they do not define their worth by how much they can attract. The skanky look described earlier comes from either too much confidence or too little.
  
  
• Sexy is a matter of heart.
  
  True beauty and attractiveness really does come from within, but we do not acknowledge this truth deeply enough, nor do we allow this truth to permeate our actions enough. A genuinely nice person who is average-looking is far more attractive than a person with stunning physical beauty, who has no inner fire.
  
  Sexiness needs to be more than meets the eye, because what meets the eye will fade. If there is no depth of heart and personality to give substance to outer beauty, attraction will die.
  
  The most beautiful people in the world are the ones with whom you can talk, share deeply, discuss honestly and laugh about life, share common interests, and in short, develop lasting bonds of friendship and relationship that go beyond superficialities.

So what does being sexy really mean?

It's the entirety of being yourself.

Reference: www.iamnext.com

What Is Masturbation?

When an orgasm is produced by manual stimulation of the genitals it is called masturbation. Masturbation is one of the first primal forms of sexual behavior usually experienced when very young.

Masturbation was considered a sin in the late 1800's and the early part of the last century. Before the 1960s, excessive masturbation was considered a mental condition, fixating on immature or undesirable behavior, leading to lack of adult responses.

In today's current sexual climate, where people are discovering themselves as well as each other masturbation can be an important and pleasurable activity for people, no matter whether you are in a short or long term sexual relationship. Often it can add more happiness and sensuality to your whole sexual dimension.

In this time of sexual disease people who are single continue to have normal sex drives. The safest, easiest sexual relief and pleasurable satisfaction available to us can be masturbation. In fact, masturbation is the safest form of sex there is.

Warning: It is not safe to experiment by masturbating with a vacuum cleaner. This is extremely dangerous and not to be recommended.

Frequently asked questions about masturbation:

• How do men / women masturbate?
• Does masturbating do any good?
• What are the tips to better masturbation?
• Do all men / women masturbate?
  
• Can we do it too much?
  
• Can it be helpful in some sexual problems?
  

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Top 10 Songs To Listen (While Having Sex)

1. Let's get it on or Sexual Healing- Marvin Gaye
Don't let the last name fool you - Marvin Gaye is all about lovin' the ladies As a matter of fact, when it came time to decide on the number one sex song of all time, we found ourselves torn between "Let's get it on" and "Sexual Healing." Let's face it, Marvin Gaye's voice is so overtly sexual that even guys get turned on by it. Warning!!! this song has a habit of leading to drunken three ways and massive orgies. So please, listen responsibly.

Sexiest line: "There's nothin' wrong with me lovin' you - And givin' yourself to me can never be wrong if the love is true...Let's get it on."

2. I Touch Myself - The Divinyls
Sex doesn't always involve two people, and sometimes it's better that way. And when you're flying solo for whatever reason, there's no better song to get worked up to than this. However, this song is not just for those who happen to find themselves without a living, breathing love receptacle at the given moment; ladies, if you want to give your guys something special, perform a sultry striptease to this song. Trust us, he'll love you for it...maybe even twice.

Sexiest line: "Hold me close, hold me tight, make me thrill with delight..."

3. Wicked Game - Chris Isaak
If you have ever seen this video, you'll easily understand the song's inclusion. Isaak, the lucky duck, gets to kiss sand off a supermodel. How many of us can say that? From its slow slide guitar intro to Isaak's pleading tenor voice, this song will definitely heat things up, even in Siberia.

Sexiest line: "The world was on fire and no one could save me but you. It's strange what desire will make foolish people do."

4. Lay, Lady, Lay - Bob Dylan
Probably one of the sexiest songs ever written, and definitely the sexiest to come from Bob Dylan. Not only had Dylan given up smoking when he recorded it, resulting in a much smoother, sweeter voice, but the lyrics posses a poetic quality that readers find them absolutely beautiful. The song conjures up images of an elegant nude gracefully reclining on a brass bed with satin sheets while embracing her lover, who wants nothing other than to hold her through the night. This is a sweet sex song, the kind that should be shared by intimate couples.

Sexiest line: "I long to see you in the morning light. I long to reach for you in the night. Stay, lady, stay; stay while the night is still ahead."

5. I'm on Fire - Bruce Springsteen
When this song was released, music critics everywhere compared Bruce Springsteen to Elvis because of the raw sexuality and bad intentions the song showcased. This song is pure sex; no more, no less. It's about a man who can't think of anything except the woman he's lusting after and for her to give him what he so desperately needs. And That is Sex.

Sexiest line: "At night I wake up with the sheets soaking wet and a freight train running through the middle of my head, only you can cool my desire; I'm on fire."

6. Just Like Heaven - The Cure
Either you love Robert Smith or you hate him. We've known girls who were extremely turned on by his disheveled hair and heavy mascara, and we've conversely known girls who think he's a whiney freak. Still, we've yet to meet the girl who doesn't like this song (even if she won't admit it). This is one of those songs that, whenever it comes on the radio, everyone sings along with ("Show me, show me, show me how you do that trick...").

Sexiest line: "Spinning on that dizzy edge, I kissed her face and kissed her head and dreamed of all the different ways I had to make her glow."

7. Closer - Nine Inch Nails
Right, so we all know what this song is and what it means. However, if you've been living under a rock for the last fifteen years, here's some background: It's about sex. Dirty, animalistic sex. Easy enough? Great.

Sexiest (in relative terms) line: "You let me violate you. You let me desecrate you. You let me penetrate you. You let me complicate you...I wanna f*** you like an animal!!"

8. I Want you, I Need you, I Love you - Elvis Presley
Forget for a minute the sequined white jumpsuits, the bushy sideburns and the weight problem. Forgotten? Good. What you're left with is the young and sensual Elvis, a rakish lad with sex oozing out of his pores. What made this such a great sex song is the "hiccupping stutter" style that Elvis employed at the time. Something about the rhythm and the timing of the song make it really, really easy to have sex to. And the words are nice, which is always a plus.

Sexiest line: "Hold me close, hold me tight, make me thrill with delight..."

9. Justify my Love - Madonna
The queen of all things sex, Madonna fashioned, with the help of Lenny Kravitz, one of the most erotic songs ever recorded. You just can't have a list of best sex songs without having Madonna on it. With it's dry bass and porn drums, Madonna created a song that had everyone saying: "Whoa, look at the unit on that guy!"

Sexiest line: "I don't wanna be your mother. And I don't wanna be your sister either. I just wanna be your lover. I wanna be your baby. Kiss me, that's right, kiss me."

10. Rock the Cradle of Love - Billy Idol
Don't laugh, we're serious! Billy Idol is another talented musician who never quite gets the respect he deserves, probably due to the fact that most people just know him as the guy with the spiked platinum hair who sneered and grabbed his crotch all the time and is to this very day banned from Thailand or someplace like that. All of that aside, when you and your partner are in the mood for some hot, sweaty, dirrty (with two "r's") lovin', this is the song that'll get you in the mood.

Sexiest line: "Flesh for your romeo, baby, I hear you moan. It's easy; y'know how to please me."

Those who almost made it : "Why Don't we get Drunk and Screw?" Jimmy Buffett; anything by Barry White; "The Fuse," Bruce Springsteen; "Kiss," Prince (and Tom Jones).

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Female Ejaculation: Myth or Reality?

There is only one mystery greater then that of the female orgasm, it is female ejaculation. We've all heard stories about friends who have been with women who can ejaculate, but how many of us have actually experienced it first hand? When asked to describe the ejaculations, responses are often quite similar, "It's liquid, it's clear, it's wet, and it squirts". Beyond this, the details have always been quite gray.

Let's begin by understanding what the elements of the ejaculate are. The four main ingredients are Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase (an enzyme which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen), urea, and creatinine. The last two ingredients are commonly found in urine, but are in lower levels than in urine. So there is some urine in the ejaculate. Some studies conclude that in some women the ejaculate is more like urine, and in other women it more like a prostate fluid. Until this question is answered fully, its safest to assume that it is a bit of both. The quantity of ejaculate can range from a few drops, to a shower of it.

Where does the ejaculate come from? There are several theories here on this, but remaining constant amongst all of them is that female ejaculation comes from G spot stimulation (please read G spot section on www.sexinfo101.com for more information). When the G spot is stimulated over a period of time, the spongy tissue that creates this area fills with fluid. Women who can ejaculate often hold back, thinking that it is urine. The ejaculate does come out of the urethra, like urine, so that is where the confusion takes place.

So what's left? You might want to learn how to get someone to ejaculate, or how to do it yourself. Like exploring everything else new in your experience of sex, you should work towards it, but not put unnecessary stresses on yourself by making it your goal. Also, it is not known whether all women are able to ejaculate, so if you or your partner is unable to - don't worry, but perhaps keep trying once in a while. As you already know, the ejaculate comes out the urethra, so it feels a lot like urine. Apart from people who love golden showers, how many people do you know who feel comfortable enough to risk urinating on or around their partners? It may be a good idea to allow yourself or your partner some privacy to understand this function of their body; at the very least let your partner now that you are excited about it, not grossed out. That being said, great places to try this out include the shower or bathtub, in or near water, or on top of some old blankets that you don't mind getting wet.

Tips : On Pregnancy

Teen pregnancy, and young motherhood has been so rampant these times that about 3.9 out of 100 young women between 15 - 25 yrs. of age old are pregnant. For these young mothers, age in itself is not a risk factor, but additional risks may be associated with socioeconomic factors.

Research has shown that there are misconceptions of some factors involving pregnancy that has greatly affected the health of most of the young pregnant women. In one account, it was said that "Pregnant teenagers are taking up smoking in the hope of having smaller babies so that childbirth is less painful."

This itself is unhealthy considering the fact that babies of smokers are more likely to be miscarried or born underweight, and more likely to suffer future health problems. And sadly, around 400 babies a year die in the womb or shortly after being born directly because of their mother's nicotine habit.

The wrong information, or lack of it really affects the way these mothers take care of both their own, and of the babies health.


I found this article from www.sexualhealth.com which I believed might help mothers be informed of some Do's and Don'ts of while pregnant.

EIGHT STEPS TO HAVING A HEALTHY BABY

• 1. STOP DRINKING alcoholic beverages. Even small amounts may be dangerous for your baby. Avoid alcohol tonight and for the rest of this pregnancy! Fetal alcohol syndrome is the most common preventable cause of mental retardation. One drink a day puts your baby at increased risk for a number of major and minor problems.

• 2.TAKE FOLIC ACID. Go to your local drug store today and tell them you need prenatal vitamins with at least 0.4 mg of folic acid per day. Folic acid helps prevent some types of severe birth defects like spina bifida and congenital heart defects. Even if you are not pregnant now, but may be considering pregnancy in the future, start taking folic acid now. This is an important vitamin. It can be found in green leafy vegetables and peas.

• 3. FIND A DOCTOR, A NURSE MIDWIFE OR A CLINIC you trust and make an appointment as soon as possible. Tell your clinician all medications that you are taking.

• 4. STOP SMOKING. This addictive substance is extremely hazardous to you and your baby. Don’t let others smoke around you! If you can’t stop completely, cut down as much as possible.

• 5. WEIGHT GAIN of 25 to 35 pounds during pregnancy produces the healthiest babies. Now is not the time to lose weight. A slow steady weight gain is best. If you begin gaining more than 2 pounds a week, check with your clinician.

• 6. EAT A WELL-BALANCED DIET. Eat a variety of foods from each food group with a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables. Your bones and teeth will lose calcium if you don’t get enough in your diet. Four cups of milk a day or 5 TUMS should do the trick. If you need help, talk to a registered dietitian. Limit your caffeine intake.

• 7. USE CONDOMS if there is any risk of HIV or other sexually transmitted infections during this pregnancy. Don’t let an infection hurt your health or your baby!

• 8. GET MODERATE EXERCISE. You should talk to your clinician about getting into an appropriate exercise regimen during pregnancy if you are not already exercising.

Types of Condoms

As it is rightly said, ‘Prevention is better than cure’, it is safer to use a condom to prevent sexually transmitted diseases, more specifically AIDS. It is agreeable to use a simple but effective condom for contraception rather than going in for an abortion at a later stage. A considerable variety of condoms is now available. A male condom is a sheath or covering that is fitted over the man’s penis. It is open at one end and closed at the other end.

Latex condoms:
These condoms are made up of latex rubber. This type of condom is now available at very low rates in most countries. This can be used only with a water-based lubricant and not with oil-based lubricants such as Vaseline or cold cream. Some people might be allergic or sensitive to latex condoms. Such individuals can resort to polyurethane condoms.

Polyurethane condoms:
Polyurethane is a type of plastic. It is much thinner than latex rubber, making it more sensitive. Hence it offers a superior advantage in terms of the feel and appearance to most of the users. It can be used with both water and oil- based lubricants, and is generally expensive when compared to the latex condoms.

The data on the efficiency of condoms is controversial. The golden rule therefore is to use the condom appropriately to maximize the benefits.

Novelty condoms:
These are special condoms meant for fun and enjoyment and do not confer any protection against AIDS/HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases. They do not prevent pregnancy either. These are labeled ‘FOR NOVELTY USE ONLY’. Caution has to be excised while purchasing such types of condoms.

Why We Flirt: The Science of Sex

So why do we flirt?

It’s so natural, we barely even notice we do it. Tilting a head to expose the neck, smiling or laughing at something that really wasn’t funny, moving closer to the person making unfunny jokes, mimicking their actions. Our body language is perhaps the most subtle expression of what we’re really thinking and feeling, and is a crucial component of the courting dance known as flirting.

Though cheesy pick-up lines abound, a lot is conveyed even before words are uttered. A prolonged gaze or arched eyebrow gives clues to the person across the bar that you’re interested without having to explicitly ask about his/her sign. Though the statistics differ, some attribute almost 80 percent of our first impressions to our stance and swagger. And because flirting helps both animals and humans find mates faster and easier, it is an evolutionary trait hard-wired in our brains. Mice twitch their noses at potential mates, colorful peacocks strut around for admiring peahens, and pigeons puff their chests to look buff. As much as we have moved on from mice and feathers, we do much of the same, for the exact same reasons.

Genetic Peacockery
Because flirting is an easy way for us to display our genes, mating potential, and interest, nature put a lot toward its success. This is one of the reasons why some males birds have exotic plumes, why elk carry hefty antlers (a sign of a healthy immune system), and why male fiddler crabs have such large claws. He waves his in the air, alerting females to his whereabouts, and signaling them to come closer for a better look at his burrow, colorful shell, and flashy claw.

Much in the same way, we’re physically programmed to indicate interest almost before we mentally have a say in it. Slight actions reveal a lot. Stance, eye movement, and gestures like leaning forward to talk to the person, or quick eyebrow raises are what scientists call contact engagement, signaling to the other mammal that you’re prepared for things to potentially get physical. Perhaps most importantly, these signals show that you’re not intending to dominate or flee. Or not just yet, anyhow.

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Finding Wonder "G"

So where is "G"?

Research shows that only 31.7% of the male population know where to find the spot they call "G". It's like one mystery that we all know is there somewhere but somehow, we just couldn't find it.

So what shall we do?. Like a treasure hunterm what evey guy needs to have is a map like the one above and (please no codes.....!) the facts.

Just like:

What is the G-Spot?

Unlike men, women can orgasm several different ways, via clitoral, vaginal, or G-Spot stimulation. Your partner may already climax fairly easily with clitoral stimulation or during intercourse. However, there is an area for stimulation inside her vagina called the G-Spot that you may not have found. Most people don't know about it. The G-Spot is a bean shaped mass of nerve tissue located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the top of the cervix. The G-Spot is the focal point of the female sexual arousal. The size and location of the G-Spot will vary from woman to woman, but it's usually about the size of a quarter, and lies two to three inches inside the vagina directly behind the pubic bone. You may be able to help her have added pleasure, experience new sensations, and perhaps have a new type of climax.

Where can I find the G-Spot?

The G-Spot is not easily located. Sometimes women have a hard time finding it and do not even believe they have one. Here is an easy method to finding it.

To explore this area, have your partner lie down, knees bent and feet flat on the bed, with a small pillow under her buttocks. Insert the length of your lubricated fingers into her vagina towards her navel. This will be about two inches inside the vagina. Press with one or two fingers against the front wall of her vagina. Because it's surrounded with tissue and is deep in the vaginal wall, you may want to apply a little more pressure than usual.

When you stimulate the right spot, it will swell the way your penis does. Slide your fingers from side to side. Have your partner tell you when you hit the right place. She will be able to tell. When you find the sensitive spot, continue stimulating it and you may find that it becomes firm and swells much like the erectile tissue in your penis.

How do I stimulate the G-Spot?

Now that you've found the G-Spot, kneeling between your partner's legs you can use the thumb of your other hand to gently stimulate her clitoris at the same time. This combination should give her very intense sensations. She may climax in this position, or you have the alternative of continuing in a different position.

If your partner turns over onto her back, you can stimulate her G-Spot most easily if you lie between her legs. Then try inserting two fingers and rub against the bottom of the vaginal opening, press upward with the tips of your fingers until you are pressing her G-Spot. Move your fingers from back and side to side. You can give her great pleasure by licking your partners clitoris and stimulating her G-Spot at the same time.

Another method is to have your partner lie on her belly with her legs spread apart and her hips slightly elevated. Insert your fingers with your palm down, into her vagina and explore the front wall. Have your partner move her pelvis to make contact with your fingers. As you feel your partner become more aroused, slip the other hand under her abdomen above her pubic hairs and slowly press.

What else is important about the g-spot?

Many women enjoy the "doggy" position during intercourse because it stimulates the G-Spot. This is because a man's penis has better access to the front wall of the vagina. Most women need firmer pressure to the front of the vagina, quick rhythm,and a lot of friction to have a G-Spot orgasm.

Some women get a feeling of the need to urinate at first when the G-Spot is stimulated. Your partner may need to empty her bladder before you begin love making.

It's possible that by stimulating the G-Spot your partner may ejaculate a small amount of white or clear fluid when she climaxes.

February 2008 - Sexy Bite of The Month

Sexy Bite of The Month

Her name is Anggun Cipta Sasmi (born April 29, 1974, in Jakarta). An Indonesian singer/songwriter ("Snow On The Sahara") with French citizenship. Her name means "grace born of a dream" in Bali. Having already had tremendous success in her homeland Indonesia since she was 12, she decided to pursue an international career and left Indonesia in 1995, when she was only 19. After a year in London, she settled in Paris, France and met producer Erick Benzi, who later helped her sign a record deal with Sony Music France and recorded her first French album, Au Nom de la Lune, in 1996. The album was released in 1997 and spawned a hit single, "La neige au Sahara." She re-recorded the album in English and it produced her biggest worldwide hit single to date, "Snow on the Sahara."

To date, Anggun has sold approximately 3 million copies of records worldwide and has become the most successful Asian artist outside Asia. Her success has spread throughout Europe, particularly in France and Italy.

More about her on www.anggun.com.

Learning Sex Like 1.. 2.. 3..

What better way to learn sex than to show it in the simplest way possible. This would probably make it's way in the "First things to do..." list on Sex Education.

Which Size Matters?

Having read and article from The Female Brain (Dr. Louann Brizendine MD), I learned some fascinating facts about the neurochemical make-up of women and how it impacts our behavior. Here are some interesting nuggets I came away with:

1. The neurochemical make-up of men dictates whether or not they will be faithful. There is a gene that codes for a particular kind of vasopressin receptor in the brain, which comes in seventeen different lengths. Males with longest gene variation are the most reliable and trustworthy partners. Therefore, this is the only size that matters when seeking a long-term mate.

2. The female brain is nature’s default setting. From conception until eight weeks, the fetal brain has the circuitry pathways of the female brain. After eight weeks, a huge testosterone surge makes this unisex brain male by killing off some of the cells in the communication centers and growing the areas dedicated to sex and aggression.

3. Women are not prone to fidelity any more than men are. Women are subconsciously looking for the men with the best genes to father their children. Symmetrical features are a signal of good genes, and therefore women are drawn to men with more symmetrical structures. When a woman is single, she is looking for men that can help her raise and protect her family. Once the home is established, the biological need to sneak around with men who have the best genes still persists.

4. Mommies fall “in love” with their babies. Research has shown that tender nurturing and breast-feeding that a mother experiences with her child releases bursts of dopamine, the reward and pleasure chemical, just as it does in romantic love.

5. No cold feet. In order for a woman to have an orgasm during sex, her amygdala, the center for fear and anxiety must be turned off. Women need to be comfortable and have their feet warm before they feel like having sex.

6. The switch from the giddy intensity of romance to the calmer, less passionate long-term relationship state is nature’s way of decreasing a couple’s focus on each other so that they can care for a new child.

7. The female brain is much more adept at reading subtle facial and verbal emotional expressions. Men, on the other hand, cannot read emotions—it’s only when they see actual tears that they realize that something is wrong. This is why women have evolved to cry four times more than men do, to signal distress that men cannot ignore.8. Love hurts—literally. Romantic rejection triggers the same circuits in the brain, as does physical pain.

9. Menopause has the result of the “mommy brain” getting unwired. At about the age of forty-three, the female brain changes to become less sensitive to estrogen and oxytocin, the “tending” neurochemicals, and women are less inclined to nurture, connect, or establish connections like they did in their prior years. This kind of change usually baffles everyone around them.

10. Women are only half as likely to be gay as men. An estimated 5-10 percent of the female population is estimated to have same-sex attraction, but the female brain is only half as likely to be wired for same sex attraction as the male brain.

Heels are Pills!!!

STILETTOS can be good for a woman’s sex life, says a study which claims wearing them “directly works the pleasure muscles linked to orgasm”.

Experts found the high heels toned women’s legs and strengthened pelvic muscles.

In tests, Dr Maria Cerruto, of the University of Verona, Italy, discovered that wearing a pair of ‘‘moderately high heeled shoes’’ had beneficial effects for a woman’s sex life.

‘Heels work the pelvic muscles and reduce the need to exercise them.‘‘Wearing heels during daily activity may reduce the need for the pelvic floor exercises necessary to keep that part of a woman’s anatomy toned and elastic,’’ Cerruto said.She asked 66 women under 50 about their sex lives, exercise regime and shoes.In tests, their pelvic muscles were more relaxed in higher heels, increasing their strength and ability to contract.

‘‘Women often have difficulty in carrying out the right exercises for the pelvic zone and
wearing heels could prove to be the solution,’’ Cerruto said.

Manolo Blahnik, whose shoes are worn by Sex and the City’s Carrie Bradshaw, said: ‘‘This is wonderful news. I’ve been hounded for years about how bad it is for posture, but . . . when you put on a high heel it makes life more exciting. For women, it’s a way to appeal to the male species.

‘‘There’s a limit. Anything over 11.5cm, you can’t walk properly; it’s no longer elegant.’