Advantages and Disadvantages of Pre-Marital Sex

What are the advantages and disadvantages of premarital sex?

The change in the 20th century of American society in the scope of premarital sex is the dramatical increasing of premarital sex behavior. According to the survey data, in the past, premarital sex rate was low, and premarital sex will often lead to marriage. Women born in the 1900's, only 8% had premarital sex before the age of 20; women born from 1910 to 1919, the rate of premarital sex increased to 23 %.

According to the 1974 National Survey data, adults, 25 years of age, 97% of men and 81% of women had premarital sex. France in 1972, the survey indicates that 29 years of age, 75% of men and 55% of women have had sexual relations before marriage. The most extreme figures from Sweden, the ratio of men and women that have premarital sex experience is as high as 99%. In other words, in Sweden, people enjoy the high degree of sexual freedom and gender equality.

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Premarital Sex

Premarital sex experience benefits us both physically and psychologically--conducive to health, because of the urgent need, not towed until adulthood. According to psychological studies, it shows that when the organs of our body become mature because of hormone secretion. Psychologically, people will, accordingly with the changes, have sexual desire, which is normal. If the desire cannot be satisfied, it will affect people's work, learning, and life.

However, it varies according to the different people - some are very strong, and some are very weak. When people are with a strong desire, the so-called "sexual energy", they can temporarily alleviate the sexual energy produced by having sex, which can give them a happy feeling, and a sense of achievement.

The Side Effects of Premarital Sex Experience

Many modern young women do not mind the long-term relationship. They think that as long as men love them, they do not care about if it is a long relationship. In fact, these women can only see the surface. They do not know what would happen later actually. Premarital sex in general have occurred in the students and those without a stable source of community among the youths. They have sex because sex is something curious for them, and they will not be responsible, or in any obligations.

When the sexual desire is gone, and something unexpected happens, some of them have the psychological fear, inferiority. Because premarital sex occurred in the majority of those who lack the knowledge of sex and experience, they may be pregnant after having sex, which may do great harm to these women physically and psychologically. Some of the disease once infected, there is no way to treat the disease, such as AIDS.

According to analysis and what we discussed above, I think premarital sexual experience has pros and cons, and by and large, the benefit of premarital sex is far less than the disadvantages. How to solve the problem of premarital sex behavior still remains an arduous task and a problem for us to tackle.

Who has more sex than blondes or brunettes?

And the answer is.... RedHeads.

Blondes may have more fun but redheads have more sex, according to new research in Germany.

The study by Hamburg Sex Researcher Professor Dr Werner Habermehl looked at the sex lives of hundreds of German women and compared them with their hair colour.

He said: "The sex lives of women with red hair were clearly more active than those with other hair colour, with more partners and having sex more often than the average. The research shows that the fiery redhead certainly lives up to her reputation."

He added that women who dyed their hair red from another colour were signalling they were looking for a partner, and added: "Even women in a fixed relationship are letting their partners know they are unhappy if they dye their hair red. They are saying that they are looking for something better."

Psychologist Christine Baumanns said however that it may not be the women who were to blame for the better sex lives of redheads.

She said: "Red stands for passion and when a man sees a redhead he will think he is dealing with a woman who won't mess around, and gets straight to the point when it comes to sex."

Hormone Theraphy - All About Timing

Research presented at an annual meeting of the American Heart Association (AHA) posed findings about hormone therapy that highlight timing as the key to their effect. Studies suggest that hormone replacement therapy (HRT) offers protection against coronary heart disease when started before the age of 45, while putting those who started later in the course of menopause at greater risk for disease. The findings come from the Women's Ischemia Syndrome Evaluation (WISE) study, which was sponsored by the U.S. National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute (NHLBI).

In the United States, heart disease is the leading cause of death and the number-one killer of women, responsible for the death of about 1 in 6 women annually, according to the American Heart Association. Much research has focused on the beneficial effects of hormone replacement therapy in terms of heart health, however the present study offers some caveats. Dr. Nieca Goldberg, AHA spokeswoman and medical director of the Women’s Heart Program at New York University School of Medicine, said that “Women need to be assessed for hormone therapy by their menopausal symptom status and age and whether or not they have heart disease… Hormone therapy should not be used for prevention or treatment of cardiovascular disease, but it should be used in appropriate women who are having menopausal symptoms.” In other words, HRT should be used to treat menopausal symptoms, and may work to prevent heart disease that is associated with menopause, rather than as a first-line treatment in and of itself.

In 2002, the Women’s Health Initiative (WHI) found that HRT might cause more disease than it prevents. The WISE study provides more information about the element of time with respect to the activities of hormone therapy, and according to its findings, presents evidence for the “window of opportunity” idea, regarding the appropriate age and menopausal conditions for which a woman should be undergoing hormone replacement therapy.

Related studies proposed that oral contraceptives, as another form of hormone therapy, may confer a heightened risk of plaque development in the arteries, and of cervical cancer, if taken for more than 10 years. Oral contraceptives are used by approximately 100 million women worldwide, and although they have been observationally regarded as a way for women to protect themselves from the adverse health effects of menopause, current research suggests that the “benefits” of the pill might actually be more aligned with the lifestyle factors of those who are taking them (e.g. diet, exercise, quality of healthcare). Dr. Goldberg commented that this presents an opportunity to assess a woman’s risk of cardiovascular disease at an earlier age, since women considering taking the pill would need to consult their doctors about their risks.

These studies also showed that any benefits of hormone replacement therapy were essentially eliminated in women who smoked regularly. This highlights the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle, with or without adding preventative therapies and medications. Heart disease is a serious issue in the United States, and awareness is the most powerful tool to fight it – make sure you speak with your doctor about your risks and about your options for prevention.

Being Wireless - No Connections, No Sex

Fact: In a recent survey, 37 percent of laptop owners said they “frequently” use the computer in the bedroom, where others things (not the internet) should happen.

What is better than sex? The world have been strucked by a small spate of recent news items and research reports that, if taken together, could indicate that we are spending big money to kill off our sex lives.

This month, Solutions Research Group, an organization that provides data to high-tech companies and also conducts surveys of our technology habits, published a report called “Age of Disconnect Anxiety.”

It found that 25 million Americans now use a so-called smartphone like a BlackBerry or Treo, and that 63 percent of you smartphoniacs have used the thing while you are in the bathroom.

But as disturbing as the previous image may be, here’s the one that ought to make you worry: Thirty-seven percent of laptop owners say they “frequently” use the computer in the bedroom. In all, 68 percent of Americans say they feel a sense of anxiety when they are not jacked into the global mind grid of the Net. This anxiety was defined as “feelings of disorientation and nervousness experienced when a person is deprived of Internet or wireless access for a period of time.”

It’s tough to look forward to, or enjoy, sex if you are anxious, but here’s something to make cell phone addicts even more anxious. In the January issue of the journal Fertility and Sterility, a group of researchers from the Cleveland Clinic reported that “use of cell phones decrease the semen quality in men.” Men using a fertility clinic were divided into four groups, ranging from no cell phone use to using the things more than four hours per day. The longer the men used the cell phones, the less he-man their semen. Sperm count, motility (how well our boys swim), viability (how alive they are) and normal morphology (how handsome they are) were all compromised.

A year ago, a team at the Medical College of Wisconsin exposed rats to six hours of cell phone emissions for 18 weeks and found that the rats’ own emissions went haywire. Specifically, their sperm “exhibited a significantly higher incidence of sperm cell death than control group rats.” Alarmingly, “abnormal clumping of sperm cells was present in rats exposed to cellular phone emissions and was not present in control group rats.”

Abnormal clumping? The authors offered sage advice: “These results suggest that carrying cell phones near reproductive organs could negatively affect male fertility.” While it may be good advice to avoid carrying your cell phone in the pouch of your jock strap, it is also good advice not to use the thing for six hours a day, especially if you’re a rat.

The whole issue of electromagnetic fields and their effects on health is controversial, to say the least. Web sites can be found blaming them for everything from leukemia to autism, yet there is very little scientific evidence for most of the claims of harm. Still, abnormal clumping?

There are signs, though, that even if cell phone use were proven to cause some harm, we wouldn’t give them up. We like our technology too much. Some of us like our technology more than sex.

You've got mail — in bed
Also this month, a British study sponsored by the Sleep Council, the United Kingdom’s bed industry group, declared “Brits Swap Sex Drives for Hard Drives.” Eight of 10 people, it said, boot up a variety of high-tech gadgets before bedtime. Almost one-quarter of respondents said they left their cell phones or smartphones on — using them as alarm clocks. One in three sends or receives text messages or e-mails while in bed. Not surprisingly, the Sleep Council’s spokeswoman, Jessica Alexander (no relation that I know of) managed to connect tech addiction — and all that extra time in the sack e-mailing — to the need to buy expensive beds that are “regularly replaced.”

So why not replace it with the Starry Night bed? Starting in 2009, Leggett and Platt, a manufacturing company based in Carthage, Mo., will sell you the Starry Night equipped with 1.5 terabytes of hard drive storage (in case you really want to listen to 400,000 songs or watch 2,000 hours of video), a headboard with a 1080p projector, Internet connectivity and an RF remote linked to a Microsoft Media Center for the low, low price of $20,000 to $50,000. If the thought having sex in a Space Shuttle cockpit turns you on, you ought to be good to go.

On the other hand, if you think the Starry Night could be an example of misplaced priorities, you won’t get an argument from Marta Meana, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She studies sexual desire and also sees patients with low or no desire, including couples in “sexless” marriages.

“There are reasons to believe there is a link” to omnipresent technology, Meana says. “If we are feeling like we are multi-tasking a lot, and our attention is divided many ways, that is getting in the way of making quiet time to have sex and really focus on another human being … Unfortunately, we do not privilege sensuous activity and sexuality the way we should in our marriages.”

Plasma TVs more desirable than sex
Another survey was released recently by a UK electronics retailer that showed nearly half of British men would happily give up sex for six months in exchange for a free 50-inch plasma TV. Only about one-quarter of all respondents — men and women — said they would be willing to give up chocolate.

Let me repeat: About 25 percent said they would give up chocolate, meaning, presumably, that 75 percent would rather not miss out on a beloved Cadbury for six months than be given a 50-inch TV. But half of men said they’d willingly give up sex to get the TV.

It turns out, say some therapists, that TV watching itself dampens our sex lives. A couple of years ago, an Italian sexologist named Serenella Salomoni issued a report, based on the habits of 523 couples, stating that having a TV in the bedroom cut the rate of intercourse in half.

In another report, a year ago, Salomoni and other Italian experts studying 250 couples were alarmed to find that many Italians were watching nearly as much TV as Americans, the world’s TV-watching champions, and that all this viewing was driving a wedge between couples.

Last year, Japanese sleep scientists studied the influence of electronic media, including TV, computers and PDAs on more than 5,800 Japanese people. About half said they thought they were not getting enough sleep because they were up using the Internet or watching TV. As it turned out, the actual amount of sleep between users and non-users did not vary much, but users perceived a lack of sleep quality and sleep amount. This perception was aggravated on nights before work days.

If you think you’re tired and stressed, sex is not going to be a must-do item.

All this news may lead you to think that we are too busy, too tired, too distracted and too desirous of flat-screen TVs to have sex, and that even if we are having sex there’s an outside chance our gonads are so fried by our constant connectedness they’re making sperm look more like the Hunchback of Notre Dame than sleek cruise missiles.

Seeking distraction?
Not so fast, says sexologist Bob Berkowitz, a co-author of the new book “He’s Just Not Up for It Anymore: Why Men Stop Having Sex, and What You Can Do About It.”

It is not so much that we are victims of the machines as it is that we often “allow ourselves to be distracted by technology. Whether it is computers or BlackBerries or TVs in the bedroom, sometimes I think we are choosing to be distracted. It’s almost like ‘Let’s watch TV so we do not have to talk.’”

Technology, Berkowitz points out, is neither good nor bad. As Sexploration has stated before, as in a recent column about connection in virtual worlds, there are ways technology can positively influence sex. “If you are connecting with a significant other via a cell pone or BlackBerry or laptop, that could be a good thing to do,” Berkowitz says.

True, we can be distracted by any number of things, like reading a book. There’s the old cliché of the man reading the sports page over breakfast and ignoring his wife. Plug “PDA” into that scenario and it doesn’t sound much different.

Yet we often feel beholden to our technology. This month’s Solutions Research Group survey found that 63 percent of Americans agree with the statement “I’m the kind of person who likes to be in touch all the time.”

One person quoted in the study’s summary told this story:

“A couple of years ago I was in Asia travelling around and my wife and I went to Cambodia and the area that we were in [had] NO ACCESS. So we went for four days and that was tough and when we got back to Hong Kong my wife knew I needed to sync up with my BlackBerry. So I am sitting on the train from the airport headed back to the city ... and I’ve got a flood, a flood of e-mails. And it’s just you are used to a certain type of access and efficiency so you can run your lifestyle the way you want to, then all of a sudden it’s been taken away — like someone taking away your driver's license.”

Wife. Exotic vacation. E-mail? This is why every gadget comes with an “off” button.

Brian Alexander is the author of the new book “America Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction.”

10 Reasons To Have Sex

Sex does a body good in a number of ways, according to experts. The benefits aren't just about pleasure -- each of these 10 health benefits of sex is backed by scientific scrutiny.

Among the benefits of healthy loving in a relationship:

1. Sex Relieves Stress A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction. Research shows that those who had frequent intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

3. Sex Burns Calories Just like any exercises, thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound.

4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that's not so, according to research. The researchers found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.

5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex. One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves. Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it.

6. Sex Improves Intimacy Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Research found results stating that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels. Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond. Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you're feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.

7. Sex Reduces Pain As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.

8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life as research says.

9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you'll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life. To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research. And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

Confessions of A Working Mom

As a single mother of three with a full-time career, I've got a lot on my plate. Between making the children's breakfast in the morning and making sure they brush their teeth at night, I hardly have any time to take care of myself. Sometimes, I just get so darn busy that I'll realize it's 6 p.m. and I haven't even eaten yet! Can you imagine? Not that I'm complaining, though. I love being a mom. But I'll tell you what—sometimes I find it just about impossible to find a spare moment to stimulate my clitoris until I reach glorious climax.

From the moment I wake up, I'm always worrying about someone else. I've got to make the kids' lunches, get them on the bus—no easy task when it comes to Melanie—and then race around to get the house straightened up so I can leave for work. And after a grueling eight-hour day, I've got to turn around and go grocery shopping, stop at the bank, and pick up the kids after their extracurricular activities. I'm telling you, sometimes it feels like I barely have a second to breathe, let alone 20 minutes to writhe beneath my bedspread with the passionate thoughts of sensuous lovemaking until I gasp with the force of my full-body orgasm.

Of course, I can't blame that entirely on the kids. Sure, there are times when I'm picking up dinner, and I think about how easy it would be to sneak off to the restroom and rub off a quickie. But then a special on that cereal the kids like distracts me, or I happen to run into a chatty neighbor, or I'm just too pooped out from work to take that special "me time." And that's really no one's fault but my own. I just keep telling myself, "That's okay, Sheryl. Tomorrow you can take the afternoon off and run a bath, light some candles, and tease your engorged vulva to thoughts of that carpenter who put in our basement molding. Tomorrow."

But I never do.

I'm not usually one to whine about such things, but my work isn't doing me any favors either. All day long I'm in meetings or filling out expense reports or trying to fix the work that that damn Carol didn't do right the first time. Even if I do take my lunch break to slip off into the handicapped stall, hike up my skirt, and start pleasuring my body with two, three, sometimes four fingers at a time, inevitably my cell phone will ring or someone will walk in and distract me, and eventually I just give up and go back to my desk having never shuddered uncontrollably with the powerful release only my dexterous hands can provide.

No one tells you when you're young, but having kids just upends your whole life. One minute, you're more than willing to lie on the couch for two or more hours, rubbing massage oil over your breasts and inner thighs until your primed body is aching for that last gentle stroke that will send it over the edge. And then the next minute you have a few children and all of the sudden the only thing that gets you excited is not finding another cavity at the dentist's office. It's all about priorities. And, until the kids go off to good colleges and I save up enough vacation days to make it worthwhile, I guess getting down on all fours in front of the full-length mirror and slowly working my trusty purple vibrator in and out of my dripping love canal with increasing speed and intensity will just have to wait.

I only wish I still had a husband to take some of this work off my hands. If I had a man around the house, I bet I could find all sorts of opportunities to masturbate.

Ah, well. No rest for the weary, I suppose. I'm certainly not going to win any points with the feminists by saying so, but maybe we women simply can't have it all. Maybe we have to make the choice between being a working woman who occasionally coaxes her pussy into such a lather that her hands are slicked with love juices, or a mother who spontaneously pulls over to the side of the road on the way to pick up the kids from day camp and swirls her fingers over her love button over and over and again and again, faster and faster until she's screaming, "Yes! Yes!" and slamming her fists on the car horn.

Because sometimes when you try to have it all, you end up losing what's most important to you: earth-shattering, toe-curling multiple orgasms.

Signs of Pregnancy - Pregnancy Test

What are the signs of pregnancy?

The signs of pregnancy vary from woman to woman. Usually the most obvious sign is the absence of menstruation (amenorrhea). However, some women continue to have bleeding even while pregnant. The following are the most common initial signs of pregnancy. However, each woman may experience the signs of pregnancy differently. These may include:

• fatigue
  
  
• sore and swollen breasts
  
  
• nausea or vomiting (also called morning sickness)
  
  
• frequent urination
  
  
• certain food cravings or aversions
  
  
• bloating of the abdomen
  
  
• darkening of the skin around the nipples (also called the areola)
  
  
• bluish-purple vaginal and cervical tissue, due to blood engorgement, which can be detected during a pelvic examination.

These early signs may not positively indicate pregnancy, but may actually signal another process occurring within the body. A pregnancy test can provide more accurate results.

What is a pregnancy test?

Pregnancy is confirmed with a pregnancy test. A pregnancy test can be performed on either urine or blood. Pregnancy tests detect the presence of human chorionic gonadotropin hormone (hCG), a hormone produced by the placenta about 10 days after fertilization. Levels of the hCG hormone approximately double every two days during the first 60 days of pregnancy. Pregnancy tests that are performed using the woman's blood are done by a physician and are usually performed to obtain a very early diagnosis of pregnancy or also to confirm an at-home pregnancy test. Blood tests are very accurate and can detect pregnancy by the second week after conception.

Women can conduct an at-home pregnancy test by testing a sample of urine about two weeks after conception, or about the time a period is due. Home pregnancy tests have become more accurate in the last decade. If the test is used correctly, most home pregnancy tests are 97 to 99% accurate. It is recommended that users repeat the test in a few days, whether the result is positive or negative.

Always consult your physician to confirm a positive at-home pregnancy test with a more reliable pregnancy test and physical examination. If your at-home pregnancy test results are negative, and you think you are pregnant, you should also consult your physician.

Who's Got More Sex? Depressed Women

DEPRESSED women have more sex than those who are happier, regardless of whether they are in a relationship or not, a study of Australians has found.

A survey of Melbourne women presented at an international mental health conference has concluded that females who suffer from mild to moderate depression have a third more sexual activity than those who are not.

They also had more sexually liberated attitudes, a bigger variety of sexual experiences and, if single, were more likely to partake in casual sex, Dr Sabura Allen, a clinical psychologist at Monash University, said.

"It was more sex and more of everything from kissing to petting, foreplay and intercourse," said Dr Allen, who studied the recent sexual experiences of 107 depressed and non-depressed women who were in relationships.

"We knew this anecdotally from clinical samples but this is the first time it's been shown in research."

She said depressed women were likely seeking out sexual intimacy more often to help feel more secure.

"When people are depressed they feel more insecure about their relationships and concerned that their partner may not care about them or find them valuable," Dr Allen said.

"Having sex helps them feel that closeness and security."

Asked whether intercourse could be an effective balm for depression, the psychologist said "we really don't know but we presume it helps as it gives these women opportunities to be close to their partner and loved."

The team also is investigating depressed single women and has found a trend towards more casual sex than happier singles.

Dr Allen said Australian couples tend to have sex between once and three times a week, with "very much the majority in the once a week group".

Single women have it "significantly less", but the same is not necessarily true of single men.

The study, soon to be published in a British medical journal, was presented today at the International Congress on Women's Mental Health in Melbourne where the latest research in mental illness and hormone-related conditions is being showcased.

New studies have shown high rates of severe PMS and post-natal depression among Australian women, a dramatic drop in the abortion rate, and a promising new treatment for Alzheimer's disease.

Now That You're Pregnant

10 things you're (Non-pregnant) friends should know now that you are pregnant:

1. Hormones. While you may think, as a woman, that you know everything there is to know about hormones, think again. Think of the range of emotions available to the normal person, and then multiply it by ten. In one day. Please be sensitive to your friend who was once a sane woman, and who will be again in nine months.

2. Hunger. You may be on a diet, but we've just been granted a free pass (within reason ladies!) to eat all those deliciously wicked foods we've been craving for most of our adult lives. Indulge us in our new found freedom. Don't remind us how many calories that quart of Ben & Jerry's has, and please, don't mock us when we suggest a buffet for lunch.

3. Weight Gain. Never, never, never discuss your recent weight loss in front of us, or anything that is related to mini skirts, skinny jeans or bikinis. Keep in mind that waving an article of clothing smaller than a size 8 in front of a pregnant woman is like waving a red flag in front of a bull. A very fat, hungry, hormonal bull.

4. Priorities. You'll need to understand that from nearly the second of conception, pregnant moms' priorities can change dramatically. While you may still be into Cosmo, shopping all day, going out for cocktails every weekend or spending hours on the phone, your new prego friend may be more interested in reading Parents magazine, registering for nursery gear and taking mommy yoga. If you want to remain friends, you may have to find common ground somewhere in between. More than likely, your friend has moved into a different phase of life, one that does have room for you, but in a new way.

5. Bedtime. Pregnant women are sleepy, and when deprived of sleep, grumpy. Keep this in mind when setting up a movie or dinner time, and respect your friend's need to get a good 8 hours a night, and maybe a nap during the day.

6. Dazed and Confused. The pregnancy brain is well documented, albeit anecdotally. While medical studies haven't conclusively proven that pregnant women suffer from a real "pregnancy brain," most women will tell you that their short term memory suffers while they're pregnant. Just think of this as an introduction to "toddler brain," which afflicts mothers of young children. You'll have to be a bit more patient for return phone calls and emails.

7. Sharing. While most women are glad that their best friend is having a baby, there may be a little unconscious jealousy that they'll now have to share their friend with a new baby, who will demand inordinate amounts of time from his/her mother. You'll have to accept it now that your relationship, no matter how strong, will never be the same. And don't try to compete�the baby will always win.

8. Interests. You like the same clothes, the same movies, the same restaurants. Once your friend gets pregnant, her focus will completely change — now she'll be fixated on baby clothes, childbirth education classes, colors for the nursery, etc. While you may no longer be able to share all your pursuits, support her in this new pursuit — she'll be able to offer you plenty of advice and hand me downs when it's your time!

9. Baby Showers. As a good friend, you will be expected to offer to throw a baby shower. Don't take no for an answer (unless she REALLY doesn't want one). Throw her the party of her dreams, complete with stupid baby shower games and a cake in the shape of a rattle. If she's a good friend she'll do the same for you.

10. Love and Understanding. Putting up with a pregnant woman's idiosyncrasies can be a bit much to ask. And not all women will morph into a crazy pregnant woman — many will remain the same, albeit bigger, pregnant versions of themselves. All they need from you as a friend is a little more love and understanding�and a surprise quart of Chunky Monkey never hurts either.

Oh, You're Dad Didn't Tell You?

Where did we learn about sex?

Is it from that old video our 60-year old teacher showed us on our sexual education subject? Or is it when the same 60 year old teacher had a demo on how to properly put a condom on using a banana. Probably it has contributed some, but usually we all got our keen knowledge about sex from our dads, or their dads, or someone else's dad. But the problem is, they are all general, and trust me, there are a lot of thing your father didn't tell you about sex.

Talking about sex can be uncomfortable, particularly for a dad with his teenage son. A sex ed talk from your father usually consists of the following:

* Wear a condom.
* Treat the girl with respect.
* Don’t rush her.
* Save yourself for the right girl.

Of course, none of this prepares us for the harsh reality of a proper sexual encounter. Our fathers have failed us in our pursuit for sexual enlightenment.

With this in mind, I present to you The 9 Things Your Dad Never Told You About Sex (But Really Should Have). Should have been 10, but I bet he insisted saying he taught you number 1.


1. its not like a porno movie
It never is. You may think that watching your favorite pornstar jumping and pumping makes you capable of doing it too. It's not as easy as you see on video, like a doctor talking to a nurse, then the next thing you know, they're having wild sex in the patients bed. You might be hoping for a very hot girl wit a very sexy body when you think of sex, but then you'll loose your virginity over a nerdy type girl, who doesn't even know which side of the bra is supposed to be used. Sex is nothing like it appears in porn. (unless you happen to be dating a porn star)

2. pacing yourself
If you thought that going at it hammer-and-tongs for long periods of time was the norm, like porn stars do, think again. Those porn stars could last forever but when you had it, it lasted a mere 2 minutes before you rolled over and fell asleep. If you’ve never heard the story of the tortoise and the hare, I’m sure it related to sex. Women want a stallion who can last the distance and although sometimes a quickie can be just as fun, nobody wants it to be over before it’s even begun.

3. headaches are not an excuse
New evidence has come to light though which says that the female orgasm releases endorphins (a natural painkiller). This means that sex is a headache cure. educate her, and you might find a reason to have sex at night.

4. 3some are not as common as yout think
If you live in the world of FHM, then having three in a bed is like having coffee in a park. But in reality, its far from common. Some even died without having to try it. And some, lost a couple of girlfriends through requests for their big-butt-boobs friend to join for a session. I have translated the term “Ménage á trois”, and as it turns out, it's actually a French phrase saying “In your dreams”. Now that makes sense.

5. impotence is ground for divorce
As sad as it may sound, some poeple just can't take it. Saying "It's ok, we still have eachother" is really that bad for others, so better train those swimmers (if you know what I mean).

6. most women need clitoral stimulation to reach porgasm
"What? My dad never told me that". Yes, you can say that cause they never do. Thinking about it from a female perspective though, it makes sense. In, out. In, out. In, out. Yeah, I can see how it might get a bit boring after a while. The key is to master the clit using your fingers, tongue and any other body part you think can do the job.

7. You're penis can explode
I’ve watched an entire TV documentary on sex disasters and things that go wrong during sex and it has changed the way I look at sex forever. I remember one in particular involving a Romanian man and his sexy 18 year-old girlfriend. If you’ve ever had an erection so hard you felt like it could burst, imagine how this guy felt. His erection was so hard, firm and manly that the blood cavities in the penis actually burst. Can I get an overwhelming “Ouch!” from the guys reading this? And it’s not just your penis exploding you need to worry about. There’s something a lot more common that nobody told me about until it happened to me. The dreaded ‘banjo string’. If you don’t know what the banjo string is, it’s the piece of skin between the penis and the foreskin and is officially known as the frenulum. If you’ve been circumcised congratulations, you probably haven’t even got a banjo string. If you haven’t, there is a good chance that rough sex can ’snap’ this little bit of skin and it bloody hurts. And bleeds. A lot.

8. Only 1 in 400 men can give themselves oral sex
While it’s not surprising that only 1 man out of every 400 has the size and/or flexibility to perform fellatio on themselves, what is really embarrassing is that most of, if not all of, the 400 men have tried to give themselves oral. Sad but true, and I mean in it a way knowing that out of 400, there is still this lonely person that exists in the world.

9. Men have a G-spot too
Men actually have a spot which, when stimulated, can induce pleasure in much the same way as the female G-spot. The irony of this is that to pleasure ourselves in this way we have to explore areas of our body that most straight men would prefer not to explore. For some reason, our prostate is the source of this pleasure and it happens to be buried deep in our dirtbox. If you want to explore the joy of rubbing this sacred spot, you need to insert one (or two if you’re feeling brave) fingers directly into your anus. I experienced this completely by accident one evening when an ex-girlfriend decided to surprise me with an impromptu anal probing. Needless to say, I have mixed feelings about the whole thing as a result. If you’re brave enough to try it, lube up. Trust me, it won’t be anywhere near as enjoyable going in dry.

These are things you'll learn in the outside world, and these are the things that are in reality. But as long as there are dads to tell us what sex is, we all have to settle learning it first with these two tips :

1. Shag as many women as you can while you’re still young.
2. Don’t get her pregnant or bring home any infections.


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How To Be Pregnant

So many couples (married or not) spend a good part of their lives trying not to get pregnant, that when it comes time to start a family, they don't conceive of infertility as being a potential problem. But, for 6.1 million Americans, or 10 percent of the reproductive age population, infertility is a very real problem.

Typically, about one-third of infertility can be attributed to a problem with the woman's fertility, one-third to the man's, and the remaining one-third to a combination of both, or unknown factors. It is important for a couple to remain open minded and to be compassionate with their partner if it is determined that they are the "problem", considering the fact that females are more sensitive about this issue than the later.

So how do you get pregnant?

Conceiving a baby remains one of the most sought after events in many couples' lives. For some, getting pregnant happens relatively easily, but for others, conception remains elusive — surprisingly, couples only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle. You may find that the "magic" of creating a life may require a little more "business" than you anticipated. The key to conceiving is proper timing, and achieving that timing requires attention to detail and tracking the changes your body undergoes each menstrual cycle.

• Know Your Menstrual Cycle

The first step in getting pregnant is knowing your menstrual cycle. Each woman's cycle is different, but the average ranges from 28 to 32 days. If you have a typical cycle, ovulation will take place approximately 11 to 21 days after the first day of menstruating. Women who have shorter cycles will typically ovulate earlier, and women who have longer cycles will ovulate later. Start tracking your periods on a calendar by noting the first day of your period and counting the days until the first day of your next period.

• Maximize your Fertility

In simple words, Have sex regularly, specially during the days leading up to ovulation If you consistently have sex two or three times a week, you're almost certain to hit a fertile period at some point.
It's is also important to Maintain a healthy weight, exercise regularly, eat healthy foods and keep stress under control. The same good habits will serve you and your baby well during pregnancy.

• Be Cautious
  

For as much as possible, Don't Smoke. Tobacco changes the cervical mucus, which may keep sperm from reaching the egg. Smoking may also increase the risk of miscarriage and deprive your developing baby of oxygen and nutrients. Don't Drink. Drinking can, (and will) jeopardize both your health, and that of your baby. And to top it all, "Never" take medications without your doctor's approval. Certain medications — even those available without a prescription — can make it difficult to conceive. Others may not be safe once you're pregnant.

Follow these steps and, who knows?, you might find yourself registering for diapers and baby booties soon!

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Quickie - More Than Just An Adjective

Ever had those days (or nights) where you and your lover enters a hotel, or the mall, or any where ordinary and then suddenly, in a spur of a moment you feel this urge to do "it" regardless of the place, comfort, or even the span of time you both probably have to fill your craving? If you have, then you probably know what Quickie means.

There's really nothing wrong with the it, and in fact, it's the opposite. What's good about it is it's flexibility. There is no such thing as a right time or place for a quickie. Only your imagination can limit where and when. If you really want it, you'll find a place or situation that will be suitable for a bout of urgent sex. The kitchen table, the garden shed, passenger seat, libraries, elevators (most common) or even a toilet seat will do. Just keep one thing in mind - no matter how desperate you are, be at least a bit sure that no ones watching, or worst, getting all the action on video. You don't want to share those intimate moments, and there are some who get offended. There are plenty of exhibitionists around, but we aren't all fans of it.

As to the question of why it's sometimes better than the usual sex, most people say, it has something to do with the thrill attached to it. It's spontaneity. The idea of being caught or the amount of risk involved, and the creativity of it, which makes it more sexy. And take note of this: As said in Wikipedia , a quickie does not necessarily require full copulation; it may be limited to oral sex or mutual masturbation. Just like the saying "Less is more".

So here goes:

8 Sexy Locations and Tips

1. Big-Screen Bad Movies - watch the lamest movie or something which has an unidentified title. (keep away from Disney movies)
2. Get Down, Get Down - if it's there, it's there so get down with it.
3. Step It Up - stairs are for emergency, and when it's there, it counts as one.
4. Love in an Elevator - it might be where it all started. Think about it, it goes up, it goes down.
5. Car Seat - just like Stephen Speaks said: "...and I've got all that I need.. right here in the passenger seat".
6. Rock the Alley - like kittens do.
7. The Office - coffee breaks aren't really intended for coffee only. As you're boss always says: "I need results on my table!"
8. The dressing room - is also a place to undress, so it's basically up to you to work it out and be creative.

Music & Sex Like Cause And Effects

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People nowadays listen to different kinds of music dance music: rock, disco, sexy music, upbeat music, trance and more to mention, and we tend to absorve it as it gets into our vibes everytime we hear a beat, or listen to seductive lyrics, making us express ourselves more literally making us show that inner wild personality that makes us dance like nobody's watching, grind like we were swimming, and ignore whatever comes our way, and we somehow tend to release the sexiness inside of us. But can we really say that music triggers early sexual intercourse among younger people?

In a research conducted by a public policy analyst and doctoral candidate, Tazhmoye Crawford, at the University of the West Indies, Mona, last year, it somehow showed that teenagers are identifying "music", mainly of the dancehall genre, as a trigger for early sexual intercourse.

The study, which centred on contraceptive use among adolescents, revealed that a number of children aged nine to 17, identified popular music as the main influence for experimenting with sex.

Music was identified as the fifth leading reason for having intercourse, with 10 per cent of boys indicating that it was the main reason, compared to three per cent of girls.

But, the study's findings is generating a mix of arguments among artistes as well as academics.

Behavioural scientist and music educator, Dr Marilyn Anderson says despite the fact that the music is being laid out as part of the culture,
there is no doubt that hard-core dancehall lyrics and content has an impact on the brain.

"Some rhythms, timbres and amplitudes of the music can affect emotional behaviour in humans, particularly the young," she says.

On sexual activity on buses

She surmises there is a direct correlation, for example, between the loud, hard-core music played on some public transportation and the proliferation of sexual display and activity on these same buses.

Lecturer and author, Dr Donna Hope says while there are legitimate linkage between the two, the influence of the music is not great when compared to other influences like peer pressure and early exposure to pornography.

"The role of the music is quite negligible," she explains, "except that it takes so much from what is around us in the society then it would speak about these scenes in ways that would suggest - along with all the things that are happening on the ground - that, yes, a man should have sex because the heterosexual practice is very important in defining who is a man".

Her thoughts are shared by Dylan Pow, organiser of the famed 'Passa Passa' street dance that takes place on the west Kingston end of Spanish Town Road. He argues that dancehall music is merely a speck in the array of sexual messages promoted by the mass media and is, therefore, no more influential than Hip Hop or Soca.

Pow adds that sexuality is only one component of the music which reflects a wide cross-section of the inner-city experience.

"Sometimes is a slack man on top [of the music charts]; sometime is a bad man on top; sometimes is a comedic artiste on top," he says.

He reasons that while events like his does not shun children, despite the graphic overture of sexuality, it does not influence them any more than other aspects of global popular culture.

"The kids are not patrons, they are not buying liquor, they not doing anything and if you go to any open event in Jamaica for the most part, you going to find children who should be in their bed sleeping," he adds.

Big impact on teenagers

Popular cultural artiste Tony Rebel is not buying the argument that dancehall merely mirrors the experiences of inner-city folk. He says it equally impacts on those receiving the message, especially teenagers. He says while it is not the only medium of exposure and influence, it plays an important part in early sexualisation.

"The music is the one that is teaching a lot of the youths how to have sex, the name of certain types of sex acts, how to do it. It is all descriptive and even prescriptive," he argues.

He adds that the music has reduced sex to a casual activity and fails to promote and educate youngsters about protecting themselves from sexually transmitted diseases during intercourse. Rebel notes too that more males are impacted by the sexual messages coming out of the dancehall because it is delivered from a masculine perspective.

First Lesbian Sex - The Great 8 Tips

Just like anything else, a lot of things runs through your mind when it comes to having a first lesbian sexual experience. Whether it’s your first time having sex at all, or your first time having sex with another woman, being nervous is normal, and there’s just too much cultural hype about “your first time” and “losing your virginity” that makes it a lot harder for you to relax and enjoy your first time. It's true, "you never do forget your first time" and if it's turns out well, you never have to.


Here’s some tips to get you through your first lesbian sexual experience.

1. Get to know your own body. Before you turn someone else on, it’s good to know what what turns you on. Yes, I’m talking about masturbation. Spend some quality time alone, and as you touch yourself and find the places that feel good, you’ll know where to touch her too. Plus, you'll know how to tell her what turns you on.

2. Go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sex. Sometimes alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you’re sober.

3. Go Safe. Yes, lesbians need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS too so be educated about it to make sure everything's safe. Unfortunately, safe sex is still not talked about very often in the lesbian community.

4. Fantasize. It all begins with fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are those thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool? There’s a saying, you must imagine it before you can do it.

5. Leave the toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with sex toys. Let your first time be simple flesh-on-flesh love.

6. Relax. Take your time. Touch her all over. Don’t got straight for her crotch. Undress her slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Get naked and lay your body on top of hers. There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.

7. Communicate. Ask her what she wants. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good. Tell her where you want to be touched. Communication is key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.

8. Have realistic expectations. Your first time with a lover should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is. Orgasm may or may not happen the first time. That’s okay. The point is to get physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.

Reference : http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/lesbiansex/a/FirstTimeSex.htm

March 2008 - Sexy Bite Of The Month

Sexy Bite of the Month


Being sexy doesn't require less clothes and more skin. It's all about the personality, confidence, and totality of a person. And this girl has it all, and she showed it to the world.

Riyo Mori (森 理世, Mori Riyo?) born , 1986 in Aoi-ku, Shizuoka, Japan is a Japanese dance instructor who won the Miss Universe 2007 title in May 2007.

Riyo Mori began dancing at the age of 4. She has studied at Quinte Ballet School of Canada and also is a graduate from Centennial Secondary School in Belleville, Ontario, Canada. Mori also completed her Grade 11 year at Mount Douglas Secondary School in Victoria, Canada. She still possesses her first pair of ballet shoes.

This girl simply has it all: the face, the body (credit that to her dancing career), the talent, and every bit of anything that makes her our "Sexy Bite of the Month".


See her more on Donald Trump's MTV reality show Pageant Place along with Rachel Smith, Katie Blair (former Miss Teen USA 2006) and Hilary Cruz (Miss Teen USA 2007).